More People Cheat When They Become THIS
You’d think once the kids move out of the house, it’s party time for parents who’ve been waiting at least 18 years for freedom. It turns out, for a lot of couples, it’s time for a different kind of freedom full of infidelity and getting their cheating on.
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According to recent data from Ashley Madison, the affairs and dating site for married people, 50 percent of respondents said they didn’t join the site until after at least one of their children had moved out of the house. While this might seem like the perfect time to spend more time with your significant other and get to know him or her, 28 percent actually said it wasn’t until they became empty nesters that they realized they didn’t have anything in common with their spouse.
Part of the reason it takes so long to realize you have nothing in common with the other person, according to the study, is because parents typically spend a lot of time focusing on the kids. Twenty-four percent said they were so busy all those years with the kids, that they didn’t even care that they weren’t having sex. Twenty-four percent also admitted that sex didn’t cross their minds, with 14 percent saying they actually felt selfish prioritizing sex over household responsibilities.
As many parents already know (and probably are dreaming about at this very moment) once the kids get older, your daily responsibility lessons, providing plenty of time to pay extra attention to the marriage. However, that doesn’t always happen once the kids move out.
Isabella Mise, director of communications for ashley madison explained further. “When we look at our membership, we see a few different periods in life when people become more susceptible to cheating – after getting married and birthing a child, and years later when that child moves out,” Mise said in a statement. “These life stages have an impact on the marriage, so the affair becomes less about a partner being an inherent cheater, and instead a symptom of the instability of the relationship which for many starts to become apparent when change occurs.”
If you’re thinking that a lot of parents simply don’t want to risk getting caught cheating by their kids, you’d be wrong. In fact, only 10 percent of the people in the ashley madison study said they waited for the kids’ sake. The bottom line is that people with kids just don’t have time for extra affairs. Once they move out, parents notice a lot more about the marriage than they had time for while raising the kids.
So, if you’re raising kids and have a few years yet before you become an empty nester, now might be a good time to make sure you know your spouse. Otherwise, you might find another person in your relationship once the kids move out.
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