is crucial — especially if you’re using it with a partner. After all, nothing brings down the mood like a wonky vibrator. But, in general, finding the right hardware may be even trickier for queer people. This is especially true for
, but wish to avoid all of the phallic options on the market.
This is one argument, and not everyone agrees. For example,
, a lesbian couples coach, and relationship and sex psychotherapist, told me that based off conversation she’s had with Ellen Barnard — owner of
— there is “little difference between what women loving women buy and what women loving men buy.”
That’s not to say people aren’t making toys with inclusivity in mind — and we’ve found some of the best for you by reading reviews and talking to sex experts and therapists. But remember, whenever you share your toys with a partner to practice extra care around keeping them clean.
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